When To Pick Your Battles

You’ve heard them all, “Know when to hold ‘em and know when to fold ‘em”, “agree to disagree”, “take the high road”, “walk like a man. These are clichés about picking battles, and they’re classics for a reason. Anyone can get caught up in the heat of the moment when they feel like they’ve got something to prove and lose their head, but it takes a strong person to keep your cool and not break composure in the face of conflict.

More often than not when you feel like you have something to prove, you’re the only one keeping score. It’s always easier to not let someone get under your skin than it is to get them out, and no one is allowed to get a rise out of you without your permission. If someone is going to give you a hard time about it not engaging in an argument or a perceived act of disrespect, simply tell them to mind their own business. People who talk nothing but noise don’t have anything better to do than to make others as miserable as they are, and it is not your job to indulge them. It’s your job to be the adult, not the punching bag.

An easy way to practice letting something go when it bothers you is to not respond when someone cuts you off in traffic, whether you’re on foot, on a bike, or in a car. It’s reflexive to want to wail on the horn or somehow let the person know that they have pissed you off, but don’t. You have bigger fish to fry than to try and communicate with someone who does not care that you’re upset. Save the horn and waving arms for when your life is in jeopardy.

Some body language to keep in mind if someone bothers you personally is to face them with your body, make eye contact, and just wait for them to be done. It is a subtle and confident, without being aggressive, alpha dog move. If someone doesn’t feel like they can push your buttons, they’ll move on.

Obviously you’re human and stuff happens, but you can do your best to lead by example if a situation arises by fielding it like a grown-ass man.


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Stephanie Rivera
Stephanie resides in the northwest, formerly of the San Francisco bay; she fancies herself a poet and non-fiction writer with a wandering eye for the next story. Intagram: @smittystingray Tumblr: http://smittystingray.tumblr.com/
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